Flow, flow like water, flow like air. All it’s about how you flow. Or maybe not much like the ‘how’ but more about if let yourself flow, take the opportunities as there are coming, or your egos are taking over and don’t see any. I’ve […]
Print Red Lentils quiche A delicious red lentils quiche, easy to do and my little ones love it so much. Course Main Course Cuisine Mediterranean Keyword babies, blw, family, kids Prep Time 10 minutes Cook Time 40 minutes Resting time 10 minutes Total Time […]
‘You are not getting bored, aren’t you?’ -This is the phrase I’ve heard most since I moved to Spain with my family.
When I was leaving in London, well, I was getting the typical ‘double the trouble’ and ‘your hands are full’ along with pity faces. People avoided making eye contact with me (in case I asked them for help, I imagine). A few runners, too; scared of what was coming! I would get curious mums and parents asking: how I was doing? or how I was managing with twins and an older child?
Advice that I was given from a good friend, also a mother of twins, was to have a military organisation and to stick to an extremely detailed routine. I remember with my firstborn, I was improvising most of the days, deciding on the day where we would go; where we would eat; and what we would do. We explored local spots and other areas around London, as it was easy to travel with one kid.
When the twins arrived it was game over, I don’t want to sound drastically but that’s what it felt like to us. Everything multiplied by two: clothes, nappies, naps, bottles, breastfeeding time, expressing milk, lack of sleep, interrupter sleeps, baths, games, weaning, love, hugs, smiles, laughs, dummies, high chairs, pushchairs… I could carry on forever. But the most important factor you need to consider is the time. It will multiply by two (or more) whether you want to go out or stay in. So if you want to keep time on your side you need to organise, well in advance!.
Clothes need to be ready the night before, changing bags packed and ready to go, and food as pre-prepared as possible. Bus and trains times checked well in advance. Preparing as much as you can in advance will help you to reduce headaches, crisis or tantrums.
Of course, no plan is bulletproof, but it will help keep you sane to have one. Remember don’t punish yourself if things don’t go as you’ve planned – just let it go. With twins you can’t prepare for everything, even with one kid it’s 50-50.
One more thing to consider is your expectations.
If you have twins after your first child, then don’t expect to have the same experience you had the first time around. It’s important not to compare, as having two babies at the same time is so different from having one. Plus, every child is different, so you can never have exactly the same experience, even if you don’t have twins.
The most important thing after having twins is to ask for help. You might think you don’t need it, but maybe one day when your family aren’t around or your friends are busy. Don’t be ashamed to ask for help, it’s ok, and asking won’t make you less person or weak, actually just the opposite, ask for help make you human and strong.
There are few charities, which can help you before and after having twins. If you are struggling, ask your local NCT branch coordinator for twins courses. They are great and done by twins mums. Tamba association is a great start too, with many resources, helpline, and membership benefits for twins and multiple parents. Home-start can help you too, it runs a volunteers help program, which means once a week a volunteer will come to your house to help you few hours (I used them and it was a great help!)
And, try to relax whenever you can, drink tea and keep calm; you are doing a great job!
On a Sunday that I didn’t know what to cook, and what to do with a bunch of fresh spinach in the fridge, I created this super easy recipe for Spinach Pesto.
My kids love pasta, and if it’s with pesto even better. Here you have a very easy recipe with not so many ingredients (only 5) and fast to do too!
- 250 gr of a baby or normal spinach leaves
- 60 gr of Parmesan or Grana Padano cheese
- 30 gr (a bunch of) raw almonds – with or without skin – I use with and you won’t notice much
- 1 tablespoon of lemon juice
- 4 tablespoon (or more, your taste) of extra virgin olive oil
Put all the spinach, if they fit, in a food processor and pulse for few seconds, until they are broken up. If they don’t fill all do in three times.
Add the Parmesan or Grana Padano cheese, the almonds and the lemon juice and blend one more time for few seconds.
Add now the olive oil and blend again.
And that it! Done!
Benefits – nutrition info:
You won’t need to add salt to the pesto as with the parmesan will be enough.
Spinach s high in niacin and zinc, as well as protein, fibre, vitamins A, C, E and K, thiamin, vitamin B6, folate, calcium, iron, magnesium, phosphorus, potassium, copper, and manganese.
Potassium, folate and other antioxidants benefit your brain. Vitamin K helps to retain calcium, and what best way to introduce spinach in your kids’ diet without them to take them out from the plate.
A healthy pesto, easy to do and without cost you a lot of time and money!